tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post6075120231311314722..comments2014-07-18T02:47:43.625-04:00Comments on First Time Second Time: Donor ConceptionLynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11122162501533289888noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-33190637508666741932010-04-20T13:57:10.178-04:002010-04-20T13:57:10.178-04:00Oh, oh, oh. I am jumping out of my skin right now ...Oh, oh, oh. I am jumping out of my skin right now eager to hear about this workshop. Thank you so much for posting about this, now and in the future. We talk often about how we'll discuss / navigate donor conception info with our son, and while we've agreed on the general and fuzzily nice idea of "openness," the nitty-gritty is harder. I've often thought that it's hard in the abstract - that maybe knowing our son and his particularities will make this clearer. And yet, I hesitate to wait for him to make the first move. As we've been working to prepare close friends and family on how to talk about the donor (i.e. schooling my mom not to say "birth father," which stings every time), I'm ever more aware that we can't educate everyone in our son's life about this. And I'm also more aware of my own insecurities and issues, which I don't want to convey to my son. We just attended a friend's birth; afterward everyone commented on who the baby looked like, Mom or Dad, and I found myself feeling sad that we won't have that same experience. I thought: Will my son be sad about that, or is that my issue? Is it some latent or deeply buried internalized homophobia? Clearly I should write a post of my own about this. It's all just to say, thanks again, best of luck with the workshop, and I do believe that this kind of thoughtful parenting, no matter what, is a beautiful gift.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-77327301670345585752010-04-19T01:09:16.258-04:002010-04-19T01:09:16.258-04:00I am always so amazed at the thoughtful way you pa...I am always so amazed at the thoughtful way you parent.<br /><br />I've been reading your blog for quite awhile and I just love how honest it is.<br /><br />Thanks for thinking of all the questions we should all be asking ourselves. <br /><br />Thanks for keeping such a great blog for the rest of us to enjoy!JustAnotherJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05238995496148769524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-2419248248780665002010-04-16T21:47:50.843-04:002010-04-16T21:47:50.843-04:00It dawned on me while watching "Faces of Amer...It dawned on me while watching "Faces of America" that the frustration the celebrities of African descent felt about not being able to trace their geneology back to their African roots may be a frustration felt similarly by donor-conceived kids. Not that using a donor is anything at all akin to the cutting of the ties of an enslaved person from his or her ancestry. But that big unknown gap in our kids' personal histories -- even if they don't feel compelled to meet the actual donors -- might be rather huge.oneofhismomshttp://oneofhismoms.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com