tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post4044235348480483812..comments2014-07-18T02:47:43.625-04:00Comments on First Time Second Time: Dad talkLynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11122162501533289888noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-5983948430903376482009-07-23T12:53:58.102-04:002009-07-23T12:53:58.102-04:00Skye -- Yeah, I thought Gail was pretty clever thi...Skye -- Yeah, I thought Gail was pretty clever thinking up the brother analogy right on the spot. However, we do think this explanation *is* completely true. She doesn't have a dad, which is a family relationship. She does have a sperm donor, but that's really not the same thing.<br />And yes, we are blessed to know several kids her age with two moms, though we're short on friends with two dads. <br /><br />Lex -- What language do you use with your boys to talk about their conception story? (and yes, we love the family book and everywhere babies)Lynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11122162501533289888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-10372074798617656532009-07-23T08:24:23.249-04:002009-07-23T08:24:23.249-04:00I really like the brother analogy. I wouldn't ...I really like the brother analogy. I wouldn't have thought of it. Though it's not entirely true, I think it works very well for the age she's at. Does she know any other families with two moms or two dads?Skye Xyanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06635384095438015308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-39024760788724871552009-07-15T17:11:56.518-04:002009-07-15T17:11:56.518-04:00I'm always thinking ahead to those conversatio...I'm always thinking ahead to those conversations. Thanks for writing about them and previewing what is to come. Sounds like the first "dad talk" went perfectly.tbeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06845011825238450567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-8921757375314159422009-07-14T21:57:52.533-04:002009-07-14T21:57:52.533-04:00Sounds like it went very well! This might also be ...Sounds like it went very well! This might also be a great time to either purchase, or take out (if you already have them) some picture books about different kinds of families. I really love "Everywhere Babies" (the text is not about different kinds of families, but the pictures show different families, and my kids like to talk about who's in each family), and then, of course, Todd Parr's "The Family Book." When our 6-year-olds were first gaining awareness about their lack of a dad, we'd also just talk about all of the different families we knew--friends of theirs, relatives, etc.--and point out which families had a dad, and which had two moms, and which had only one mom and no dad, etc. <br /><br />I think you were wise to not bring up the donor in the context of the "where's my dad?" discussion, but it might also be a good time to start telling Leigh her conception story, if you haven't already been. She won't understand it yet, of course, but if you start early then it will always be something she knows.Lexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07336953962925729151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-51126334844143353922009-07-14T15:29:40.057-04:002009-07-14T15:29:40.057-04:00That is really the best explanation I have heard t...That is really the best explanation I have heard to give to a child. Honest, matter of fact, and sensitive. Bravo!Cindynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-72083885225436327362009-07-14T10:37:47.950-04:002009-07-14T10:37:47.950-04:00I'm totally using that explanation as well whe...I'm totally using that explanation as well when the time comes :)Strawberryhttp://1invermillion.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818569792527986659.post-3328549393808791442009-07-14T05:41:28.681-04:002009-07-14T05:41:28.681-04:00I think you handled that VERY well! Good workI think you handled that VERY well! Good workjessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17048960064364250283noreply@blogger.com